I have had a few of these conversations and have heard about a few others myself:
to the young man dressed so well in the dining hall:
Me: Looking sharp man. Why dressed so well?
Student: Oh, I am joining a fraternity.
Me: Really? And everyone dresses like that all the time?
Student: Well, I was going to a new member meeting tonight.
Me: Oh, that’s cool. And every guy who went dressed like that or just the new guys?
The young man quietly walks away without as much as a goodbye.
Or perhaps this situation:
To the young man rolling the super small Hello Kitty backpack around campus (So small he has to bend in half almost to roll it)
Me: Love the bookbag.
Me: Mind if I ask why you chose it?
Student goes into this long explanation of how it represents this that and the other from his fraternity.
Me: Well that’s cool. Do all the guys carry one or just you?
Again, the young man walks away without as much as another word.
See, here is what I fail to understand about each of these situations. These are small tame things. And yet they are hazing. Requiring your members to do “silly” things that is meant to embarrass them to prove their commitment, that is hazing. And these guys know it. That is why as soon as I press at all, they are done talking to me.
So then why do you make members do it? What exactly does it prove?